Remember when you were a child and you picked up your dinner with your fingers…only to be scolded and told to use a utensil? This action is often seen as rude as resting your elbows on the table.
In an article by The New York Times called “Mind Your Manners: Eat With Your Hands,” the writer discusses the complexities of this traditional and how different cultures feel about hands and food.
What do you think about this piece? Do you agree that “eating with the hands evokes great emotion?”
The article can be found here: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/18/dining/mind-your-manners-eat-with-your-hands.html
According to the National Association of Elementary School Principals, lack of good manners is a growing problem in classrooms and playgrounds. I’m not surprised! That’s why I am a proponent of starting the process of teaching your children manners at a very early age. Take baby steps (no pun intended!) one manner at a time. Even though you know they don’t really understand what you are saying, you’ve planted the seed. Instead of just talking about a particular manner, try some of these methods.
I found them on a website called eHow.com.
- Play games using some of your children’s favorite stuffed animals or dolls. Set a table for a tea party or dinner. This is a perfect time for you to show them proper behavior and then let them teach their stuffed animal or doll what they have just learned.
- Engage in role playing activities. Act out real life scenarios. Role playing teaches your child about proper manners and behavior in creative ways that utilizes real-life situations.
- And of course my favorite, reading them books. Ask them questions about a certain character’s behavior. Did they display bad manners? Or did they display good manners? Have them tell you how they thought the character acted.
In my book, “Manners Are Free,” I use real-life situations so it is easy for children to relate to and a fun and easy way to learn basic manners.
Parents, remember to be patient. Don’t criticize when your child
does something wrong – gently tell them a better way to do it and why. When they do something right – make sure to give them positive reinforcement verbally, followed by a great big hug!!!!
I wanted to share a great website I found today that will make teaching your children manners fun!!! Lots of the same manners I write about in my book! I hope you enjoy it.
I have to share with you one of the greatest quotes I’ve heard in a very long time.
“Friends and good manners will carry you places money will not go.” Margaret Walker
This quote reminded me why I started teaching my Granddaughter manners when she was a small baby, and ultimately writing my book, “Manners Are Free.” Good Manners do have an impact in every aspect of your life. Good friends are gifts.
When I ask my Nana to fix me lunch – like a hot dog, fruit and cheese – she looks at me and waits patiently for the magic word, “please.”
Nana prepares my lunch with lots of care, so it takes a minute or two.
When she brings it to me, I know to say “thank you.”
“Please” and “thank you” are important words – Nana and I agree.
Cause Nana always reminds me – MANNERS ARE FREE.
I wrote my book, “Manners Are Free” about a year ago, with
the vision of helping not only my granddaughter, but all young children learn
manners in a fun and personal way. My book is written from my granddaughter’s perspective so it’s fun to read. Each manner is based on real life situations
which I feel appeals to children much more than an instructional type of
book. It’s full of rhymes and repetition with colorful illustrations to visually describe the situation for each manner. My son read it to my granddaughter’s day care class, and after a couple of pages, the children were chanting, “Manners Are Free” at the end of each page. I hope this leaves a lasting impression.
My Nana lives in Chicago, which is oh so far away.
I love it when she comes to visit cause we read, we laugh and play.
I’m so happy when she’s here, because she spends all her time with me.
But there is one thing she makes very clear…
MANNERS ARE FREE.
“Manners Are Free” is a fun book for children to read and learn basic manners.